As many of you know, scouting is HUGE in my family. some might even go as far to say that it rules our lives. Recently, on my baby center boards, someone posted a thread complaining about the scouting program and that super long week her husband has to take off to go on a 50 miler, instead of going on a family vacation, and how much she hates the scouting program because of the time it takes her husband away from her family.
It really bothered me that she had so much anger towards the scouting program and he husband's church calling in their ward with scouts. And lots of other people voiced similar opinions about it. I had to jump in. . .although I shouldn't have.
For those who aren't LDS, let me explain how our church works. Everything is based on church members serving in all the aspects. No one is paid. but because the church asks for tithing donations (10% of your income) church members are able to be reimbursed for things they provide for the church. Like gas from driving somewhere for an activity. Money for the food you paid for an overnighter. Awards you bought for the eagle scout banquet.
Anyway, because everything is based on members serving in callings, like scoutmaster, youth leader/teacher, etc, it's hard for me to understand how someone can blame scouting, when it's something they were asked if they'd be willing to contribute their time and service to, and then AGREED to do it.
They made the choice to serve it. Or, their husband made the choice to serve. but it's the scouting programs fault? Nope. I don't think so.
Here's what I posted to these people:
"wow, I probably shouldn't jump into this, but here I go! I come from a family of scouters. I have 4 sisters and 1 brother. My father has been involved in scouting as long as I've known. and not just on a church level. He works with big-wigs with the National BSA, Developing new programs for the Venturing Program. He's done woodbadge sessions tons of times, our family vacations were to go to a week long scout camp in NM (Philmont) while he was getting more training.
He's out of town about every other weekend currently for something scouting. Sometimes it for work, most of the time it's for scouts. Currently, it's just my mom and youngest sister (15 year old) living at home. Is it a sacrifice for them? You bet. And this isn't even a calling for him.
His calling actually comes from the Young Men's General Presidency. he's the LDS Chaplin at Philmont Scout Ranch in New Mexico all summer long. He's had this calling since 2002, the year I graduated from High School. My family has gone there for the entire summer while he serves this calling. At the time, it was just myself, younger brother, younger sister, and mom. One of my older sisters has been working there every summer as well though.
That's their family vacation. My sister has never gone to girls camp with her ward. She doesn't get to go to any summer camps, or EFY or anything like that because of Dad's calling. He's missed baby births/blessings of grandkids, birthdays, his dog dying. i had to plan my wedding a month earlier because of it.
It's a sacrifice the church asks of you. You have a choice EVERY time a calling is extended to you, your DH's have a choice. What if your DH was called to the bishopric? He'd be gone a lot more, you'd hardly see him on sundays, he'd go to every youth activity, have meetings in the evening after work. . etc. . .but would you blame the church? I hope not.
Don't blame the scouting program. it's not the scouting program asking him to do these things, it's a church calling. and like all calling, It's blessed more lives and family's than it's hurt. and could bless your lives as well if you tried to support the leaders. others have mentioned that when it's run properly it's great. That's the problem though. People aren't willing to take the time to get the training to help make the program run properly, and so it doesn't work like it should, some people end up sacrificing more time. . etc.
Anyway, my point it. The scouting program is a good thing, of anyone, it should have screwed up my life, but I love it, and can't wait to get my daughter involved in a venturing program.
and I don't think the church is getting 'rid' of it any time soon. if ever.
ok, i'm done *jumps off soapbox* "
It really bothers me that people just want to pass the blame. And not just on this, on everything in life! People have a hard time stepping up and taking responsibility for their choices.
I had to stop reading that thread because people were pulling my comments out of context as well as commenting how how awful my father must be to choose his calling over others (which is NOT what he's doing). And they also followed me to my blog. Which is why you can no longer post anonymous comments on my blog. Sorry! guess ya'll have to leave names now! :)